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How to Smile Full Blast All Day

Creative Ways to Say I Love You To Your Valentine

Find Out How It's Impossible To Fail at Love

Make Time To Be A Good Friend

How to Smile Full Blast All Day
by Joseph R. Plazo  

Did you notice how some people are just so insanely happy? Sling all the insulting barbs you want or hurl impossible tasks their way and yet they keep on ticking. Blissfully. Happily.

And that makes you drip with envy all the more.

A small segment of the population come factory-built with a natural propensity for positive outlook. They’re hardwired with copious amounts of zest. This zest easily shields them from the buffets of life that normally faze the rest of us.

Recently scientists discovered how the naturally occuring-drug serotonin flows more generously in such individuals. Serotonin is magic. It’s a chemical produced in the amygdala and can give far more pleasure signals than cocaine or marijuana can. No wonder happy people are unstoppable! They’re simply cocooned in bliss that rose-tints the blight of the world!

Wouldn’t you love to experience their reality?

Try these three tips now!

1) Discover what you REALLY want and enjoy your passions. Is it drawing? Painting? Designing web pages or collecting toys? The more you do what you want, the faster you pump out serotonin and create an inner zest.Take time out and hobnob with folks passionate about what they do. Did you notice how the air about them literally crackles with energy? And it's infectious! Everyone about them feels simply great!

2) Give unconditional love and respect. Face it, connection with others creates that warm fuzzy feeling inside. That fuzzy feeling expands into unmitigated, explosive joy when done regularly. Imagine how unstoppable you’ll be when you feel loved- and are loved! Spread the warmth and you'll float on cloud 9.

3) Take an inventory of your thoughts. The next time a depressing, critical or evil thought swims into view, ask yourself ‘Does this Serve Me Well?’ If it doesn’t, chuck it! There's no point entertaining darkness- no matter how logical it may be.

Fly high!

Creative Ways to Say I Love You To Your Valentine

Valentine's Day is quickly approaching, and the florists and candy makers are getting their inventory ready. But what if you don't want to do the same old tired gift of red roses and chocolates? Or what if you want to add some interesting unique spark of your own to make this Valentine's Day truly memorable and unique for your loved one?

Here are some innovative and creative new ways to say I LOVE YOU:

- leave love notes in his/her car, purse, briefcase, refrigerator, taped to his favorite beer in the fridge, taped to the toilet seat - be creative! Remind your love throughout the day just how much you love them!

- find the one thing that your lover most despises (or procrastinates about) every week, and offer to do it for him/her for one month. Is it taking out the trash? Is it picking up the kids from soccer practice? Is it balancing the checkbook? Is it grocery shopping? Find out what it is, and lift that burden from your lover for a whole month.

- surprise your lover with a secret getaway vacation.

- buy a star (or plot on the moon) in both of your names

- get a massage for both of you before an intimate Valentine's Day dinner

- write your very own handwritten love letter

- buy THE BOOK by KM MacKinnon >THE BOOK for your lover and talk about what past lives you think you've both shared!

- give a "Get Out Of Jail Free" Monopoly card. As this would suggest, you are promising your loved one that in the future, should they transgress in any manner (and you can set the limits of course!), they have one Get Out of Jail Free card to free themselves from the trouble. Did they forget to pick up the dry cleaning and you have an important meeting tomorrow? Did they snap at you at the wrong time? Did they forget your anniversary? (For that they might need more than this card!) Anyway, you get the idea - and it's a way to let your beloved know that you love them enough to forgive them in advance for something they might do!

- hire a musician to serenade your lover at their work!

- Serve breakfast in bed

- do something completely unexpected! :)

- map out new quicker shortcuts from http://www.mytrafficshortcuts.com for your love to use when driving to and from work

- write a personalized romance novel starring you both

- give a coupon book full of free massages, dinners, foot rubs, pick up the children, sex whenever wherever, you won't surf the net for one whole night etc coupons. Tailor-make it to your relationship and life, and to your lover's likes and dislikes. This is always a real pleaser - but you have to make sure they use it - and you have to make sure you fulfill the coupon when they ask!

- give your lover a bubble bath

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!

Find Out How Its Impossible to Fail At Love

Usually relationships start out wonderfully. Everyone’s thrilled. They feel that finally they’ve found “the one". Then as time passes, as problems come up and old patterns start re-appearing, they begin wondering where the love has gone. Even when each person is trying as hard as they can, unexpected obstacles often arise that cannot be overcome. Many feel lost when this happens. They do not know what went wrong, how to correct misunderstandings or what to do to make things right again.

. When a relationship ends, many feel like a failure, like they won’t find someone new, or be able to love again. However, stop a moment and consider. We would never try to build a building without first getting an architect’s plan. Without a strong foundation, any passing storm would easily knock the building down. The same is true of relationships.

Yet, so many jump into relationships, wanting to fly to the heights without having any understanding of how to build a foundation that will allow their love to stand tall and strong. It seems to them that love is a mystery. They mistake all kinds of emotions, needs and fantasies for the real thing.

Just as an architect knows and respects the laws of gravity, we too must know and work with the basic laws of love. These laws operate unfailingly. They are the cornerstone of all relationships and guidelines for the human heart. Once we learn and apply the basic laws of love, it becomes truly impossible to fail.

But rather than learn these simple laws, many have absorbed all kinds of myths about love and relationships. They live as though these myths were true and when they do not come to pass, blame themselves and others. However, it is extremely important to realize that the only thing that causes hurt, loss, or distress in relationships are the myths we are living with. Once we replace these myths with the simple laws of love, a whole new world opens. Confusion is cleared up and we naturally see the right steps to take.

This article shows how some basic laws of love quickly dissolve myths and misunderstanding.

Law #1 - It’s impossible to fail at love. Love is your original nature.

All pain or suffering in relationships is caused by lack of understanding of what love truly is. No one is a failure in love. Our mistakes, losses, confusion and mishaps simply arise out of our ignorance of who we are and what love truly is. When we have pain, suffering and upset relationships, none of it is caused by love. Love is our original nature. Once we dissolve misunderstandings about love, it’s impossible for our love not to shine through.

Law #2: There’s a difference between real and counterfeit love.

Most do not know the difference between real and counterfeit love. Like a mirage in a desert, counterfeit love cannot quench your thirst. Counterfeit love is the illusion of love, and this illusion confuses us in many ways. In order to know what real love is, we must know what it is not:

Love is not feeling excitement, infatuation, dependency or possessiveness.

If we have strong feelings for a person and feel very sad when they go away, this is attachment, not love. If we think about a person all the time, it could be obsession. If we think the person is the answer to our dreams and will finally make us happy, this is idealization.

Real love is beyond all this. Love is a verb and grows through time, deeds and understanding. Love does not bring unhappiness; it brings fulfillment, healing, kindness, warmth and inspiration. When you know what real love is, and how to make it grow, it becomes impossible to fail at love. You then will know how to build relationships that are based on a strong foundation, that allow you to become all you were meant to be, relationships that can never fall apart.

Make Time To Be a Good Friend

It seems that of the two species, females are the ones that need more social contact. It is not good for a woman to isolate herself because loneliness may set in and then this could very well lead to depression. It is very important for a woman to maintain her friendships while raising a family so that she can stay in contact with the outside world. It may be even more important to strengthen those friendships as the children grow older and leave the nest.

In order to survive, best friends need one-on-one contact. Calling friends on the telephone and getting together are essential for best friends to continue. At times it may seem very hard to maintain friendships when you have such a busy schedule. However, you do not need to take hours out of your busy day in order to maintain a friendship.

Here is a list of some suggestions that could be put into practice to maintain friendships:

1. Make it a habit to send frequent e-mails. This is great for getting a quick note off to your friend.

2. Call at least once a week. It does not take long to make a quick call to let your friend know that you are thinking about her. It is a great way to catch up on things that are relevant in both of your lives.

3. You can always keep in touch by simple and brief messages that are left on answering machines.

4. Send an occasional card. It can be humorous or a friendship card. It only takes a few minutes to choose an appropriate card and stick it in the mail.

5. Exercise together. All of us need to exercise. It is much more fun to do it with a friend. There is nothing better than to talk while taking a walk in the park.

6. Clean house together. Houses must be cleaned and it seems like such a chore to do it alone. Two makes the cleaning fun and it goes much faster.

7. Send pictures. Now that we are living in the age of computers, this is very easy to do through e-mail. One picture is worth a thousand words.

8. Go to lunch at least once a month. My good friend and I make it a habit to go to breakfast once a week where we can discuss the different events that are going on in our lives and in the lives of our family members.

Friendships between women require flexibility and maintenance. Here is some more advice as to how to maintain friendships.

1. Be a good listener. Sometimes just lending a listening ear is all that your friend needs to feel better about a choice she has made.

2. Always be respectful of your friend’s point of view. You may not always see eye-to-eye, but then you have to realize that each personality is different.

3. Do not, under any circumstances, betray a trust. If a trust is violated it can ruin a friendship.

4. Give praise and support to your friends. Make it a habit to ignore their imperfections and failures.

5. Do not be envious of a friend’s success, but always strive to admire her achievements.

Remember that we were made to be social beings and not hermits. Having a certain amount of friendships in your life is extremely important for your mental well-being. When paths begin to separate for one reason or another, then it is very important to stay in touch with your friends.